Recognizing the Emotional Signs of Depression in the Cancer Journey:
- Depression may not always look like deep sadness—it can show up as numbness, irritability, fatigue, or disinterest in things once enjoyed.
- It often includes thoughts like: “What’s the point?” or “I don’t feel like myself anymore.”
- Both patients and partners are at risk of emotional exhaustion and hopelessness during treatment.
Using CBT to Challenge Hopeless and Self-Defeating Thoughts:
Depression is fueled by distorted thinking: “I’ll never feel better,” “Nothing I do matters.” CBT tools help identify and reframe these thoughts with truth-based alternatives. Use questions like:
- Is this thought 100% true?
- What’s a more balanced way to look at this?
- What would I say to a loved one thinking this way?
Supporting Each Other with Compassion, Not Pressure:
- It’s tempting to try to “fix” your partner’s depression—but true support is presence, not pressure.
- Listen without rushing. Encourage, but don’t push.
- Create emotional safety by asking: “What do you need from me right now?”
- Celebrate tiny wins and validate hard days—both are part of the healing process.